Where Are You, Mom?

by Tony Franklin
(Bedford, Ohio, USA)

Mom, I lost you February 1st of this year, you were 85. The weather was horrible that night, an ice storm. You layed in your hospital bed barely breathing, in home hospice care was comforting your pain. My Brothers and I and your aide watched as you slipped away from us. Mom, where are you? I love you!!!!!!

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Sep 28, 2014
Yes we are all connected.
by: Anonymous

I posted my Mother passed away a year and a half ago. I miss her terribly daily! I've been reading all of your posts after mine. To all of you out there, you are not alone. I still talk to my mother, however it's sort of one sided now. I know she is there on the other side, listening. She turns my head a certain way, or let's me know that she is watching over me. I ask her for help from time to time on certain things. And unbelievably miraculous things do happen. I am so happy I was with her as she was passing. I know some of you were not able to be with your mother when she passed. Your mothers are still there listening and waiting for you to talk to them. They are now in a wonderful position to help you even more and still want to be a part of your life. I know there will be a day, an hour, that minute when I cross over. My mother will be there waiting for me and we will have a lot of good things to share about our lives. Thank you all for reading. My prayers are with you and hope you find an inner peace.

Sep 25, 2014
The pain will subside
by: Anonymous

I miss my mother. I never thought I would miss her so. I am her only son and since an early age I remember preparing myself for the inevitable moment. I have always been strong-minded and detached, (mom taught me well on the detached part, it's like she somehow knew). It doesn't matter how much one prepares and goes over the scenarios, it hit me like a ton of bricks. I am at peace with it because I truly feel she (and dad) will always be around. I think of her from time to time (it's only been 2 months). I just know she and dad are together and everything will be alright. Writing this note helps me feel re-assured of life's mysteries like death. Nothing is final, there are only beginnings. I have great (and not so great) memories and they are part of my experience. I appreciate it as a whole. If you are reading this post thank you for sharing in my experience. WE ARE ALL CONNECTED.

Sep 20, 2014
miss u mom
by: kathleen ramoska

Mom I miss you. I miss your phone calls where you would say. "Oh hi kathy,this is your mother calling from sunny florida. Signing off-mom." I wish I had saved all your messages. Signing off-katheen

Sep 06, 2014
Thinking of you always
by: Vivian

I pray that you passed so quickly because God did not want you to suffer . You were more than I could ask for .... A GREAT MOTHER.. You are with me always and forever.

Aug 07, 2014
I'm Lost
by: Catherine

Dear Mom,

I am sitting here in front of this computer like a dead woman thinking about you and; of course, how much I constantly and incessantly miss you. Into every sunset I look for you; as the clouds pass by, I look for you. Your words of kindness and wisdom are in my soul.

Cleaning out my desk drawer I found two little cards you had given me. One had a scripture from Isaiah written...those words came at just the right time. I guess that's how I know you're still with me. I can only imagine and hope you are there. I still need guidance from you. I'm certain I did not do enough for you. I should have caressed your hands more and painted your delicate fingernails.

Picking out the outfit in which to bury you was painful because it reminded me of when we spent time together and shopped. There was no one's opinion I valued more. You were always my champion and believed in me more than I ever did in myself.

Now, I have to be strong and useful to my two girls. Like I told you on you deathbed--I hope I will be loved a tenth of how much I loved you.

I will never forget you. I hope to see you again.


Mouse XO

Apr 10, 2014
Where Are You Mom
by: GAR

Where are you Mom. It's been a year since you left us. You were so strong, you fought so hard from that horrible cancer. I hate cancer. I miss you so much that I wish I could have gone with you. You died and part of me died inside. You are my best friend and I miss talking to you 4 times a day. I have no one to talk to like you. I'm so sorry you had to go through what you did. You didn't deserve to get such a horrible disease. Please speak to me, be with me. I miss you so much, it's so painful. Families should not be separated like this. Your family misses you desperately. I hope you are well, not alone, and happy. Please be there for me when I arrive one day. I miss you so much.

Mar 08, 2014
Miss you Mom
by: Anonymous

Lost my mother Opal Edens almost a year ago March 28th 2013. At that time I had just received custody of my only son a few weeks prior. My wife and I and my mother fought for my son for years and we finally got custody. She was in the hospital with a long illness, I am so grateful that we were there when she passed.... As I write this, I had to break down and cry. I know you are here in spirit. Love You, Miss you Mom

Jan 12, 2014
Still miss you after all this time
by: Anonymous

Mom, you left too soon on December 9 or 10, 2008 at age 88. We spent our entire life together, during and after WWII, coming to America and trying to make our way here. We had good times and some very bad times. I prefer to remember the good times. I miss you still and I still feel so alone. The tears are not as many as at first, but they still come every time I think of you or look at your picture. I wish I could have done so much more for you when you were here and must say that I always admired you. Being blind, in poor health and living alone like you wanted, you were a remarkable lady. Although, I saw you every day and did what I could for you, I always feel it was not enough. Forgive me but you will be my Mom forever and ever till we meet again.

Oct 15, 2013
will i ever see mum again
by: Anonymous

My mum died suddenly 3 years ago.She wasnt even ill.I still find the chores of everyday life so difficult and its getting worse.I cant speak to anyone because there is nothing they can do for me.Something has died inside of me and i will never be the same again.I feel so sorry for my wife who i love very much as i now must seem very distant to her.Im not religious but i do believe there is something after death but whether we will ever meet gain,only time will tell

May 19, 2013
I hope to see you and Billl and Dad again. Love you!
by: Anonymous

Mom your were a huge influence in my life. I think you we're brilliant and are in grain in me forever,. Dad you left so early I hope I meet you again to talk. Bill I love you so much you are so kind I am or pray your body could stay long in this world.

May 10, 2013
my mum
by: Anonymous

my mum died alone in hospital, we didnt know she was dying, i realy wanted to be with my mum when she died as i know she was afraid,but i wasnt there, and it breaks my heart a little bit every day, and i stil cry my eyes out,my beautiful mum died 8 years ago, and my dad 13 years ago.i know i wil never see them again, its painful..

Apr 29, 2013
by: Anonymous

Love you forever, Mom. Heaven has another angel now.

Mar 26, 2013
please come back...
by: Anonymous

i lost my mom on 6 march 2013 due to chest infection.
most painful day of my life, now i am not felling any more attachment with this world,
i want to die in the same manner so i can realize the pain which she felt.
i was very close to my mom, i used to share each and every thing with her.
now i do not have any resone to live anymore.
i will not commit suicide, but yes i am waiting for my turn without any fear, so that i can meet my mom, then i will hug her and will cry..

Mar 03, 2013
Cant recover from this grief !!
by: Deepak

Mom, You left us 1 year, 4 months, 6 days ago, but that was and would be the most painful moment of my life. I am not happy here in this world with you Mom, I wanna cry out loud and call you and you know just hold your hands or see your laugh or tease you.........How mom this happened ?

I still remember that night , heavy rain and you just lay in bed after 1 week hard struggle with your accident and just leaving us like something. Please mom I love you a LOT....! Though you never gave me a chance to prove it.

With Grief
Your son....

Jan 04, 2013
by: Anonymous

The loss of my mum 1 year, 1 month, and 14 days ago,was, and still is the most painful and overwelming experience. I cannot describe the grief, lonliness and complete lack of direction that hit me like a steam train, sending my whole world into a flat spin, that i had no control over. I now just feel like i'm wasting time, until my time comes to be with her and my dad, so we can be a family, which i never experienved, as he died when i was a baby. You can feel reasssured that whatever you feel, it is quite normal, as there can be no emotion stronger than loss of someone so significant in your life.life will and cannot ever be the same, but it doe xs go on, just with a lot of sadness in your heart. Thinking of you. J

Nov 08, 2012
by: Myra

The loss of my mother is the most difficult thing I've ever had to experience. I long to see, touch, hear,speak with her, hold and be held by her again. She was the most important person in the world to me, second only to my son. I came to respect and love her even more after my son was born 16 years ago. The sacrifices she made for me were incredible. Her enduring support and encouragement sustained me through the first 54 years of my life. I miss her desperately.

Oct 24, 2012
Just lost my mum
by: Dianne

Hey Tony, I've just lost my mum. It happened so quickly, she was misdiagnosed initially and we lost precious time to save her. Had they gotten it right she would have still been here. But I guess it was ultimately God's will.

The pain is searing and never really goes away. There is a cavernous void that just can't be filled but there is a strange solace knowing that one day, we all will follow that path and hopefully will meet up at the other end.

When I read your comments I know what you are feeling because I'm living it myself. We are all in it together, connected no matter where we come from. I'm from Australia, my Mum was Italian born in Egypt...

I'm not sure when you lost your dear mum but I hope that with each passing day, the burden becomes a little easier to bear.

Take care


Mar 23, 2011
by: Tony

Why did she die in front of me? I wish I had never been there.

Mar 09, 2011
by: Tony

It sounds as though you are moving on now, which is good, take care, hugs.

Mar 09, 2011
by: Tony

It is some comfort knowing you care. I keep busy, go to Mass, clean up the house, run errands, just have lots of time in between to dwell. I come here to vent, so feel better for a while. thanks again.

Mar 09, 2011
Dealing with grief...


I know how hard it is to live in the house that holds so many memories. Though my honey and I lived in this home for 10 years it was our first house. The house that we never imagined that we would own. All of the furniture was 2nd hand. Each summer we had a project of sorts so each room that I walk into is a memory for me too.

I do not suggest it for you especially so early in grief, but I have cleared out all the clutter just to be able to paint the living room.
This brought many tears yet is helping me "start over". It is not for everyone most people would cherish every memory and think me insane the way that I am dealing with grief.

It is 15 months for me as of March 6th 2011 and this is my way of starting this new life. Most of the stuff was things that I collected or hoarded for years anyway. Paul had 4 plastic bowls and sheets for curtains when I met him.
A minimalist so I think he would be proud of me.

We all deal with grief differently. There is no way to hurry grief or rush through it. I wish we could just ride through each day. One after another but this is a long journey and there are good days and bad. Just hold on and come here often. We are always here to talk to.

Mar 07, 2011
by: Tony

I found my sister dead in this same house, and my Dad ten years later, now my Mom, I actually witnessed her dying here. She is at peace I know, but its still so hard. I took care of her most of her last year, soo hard. I got things to do but don`t feel like it, soo hard. Everywhere I look around this house reminds me of everything, but I keep going, thanks.

Mar 07, 2011
read the book 5 minutes in heaven

I stayed with my father till almost the end. I actually slept there for days. The hospice people wanted someone there. I do not want to picture those last moments. I told my brothers I can't be here for the end. I will never get it out of my head and sure enough it happened not more than an hour after I left. I am not sure why I tell you this except to let you know that that was only his body that gave out. I like to think that he is painting and hiking with my mom in heaven.

Doing all the things that they were not able to finish on this earth. Your mom is looking down on you keeping an eye out for you. She is no longer in pain and from what I have read on the afterlife it is unimaginably beautiful and peaceful. I am so sorry for your loss and your pain remember one breath one step at a time...

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