Where do Grandmothers fit in?

by Elizabeth Smith
(St. George, Utah)

My beautiful, and first grandchild, Collin, was hit by a car and killed while walking to school in the dark of the morning, exactly one month ago today on November 2, 2011. He was born just two years after my last child. He seemed like my own baby. I was the midwife at his birth, which also occurred in the early hours of morning. He was such an amazing, smart and talented young man. We celebrated his 13th birthday at a family gathering just two weeks before he died. Oh how I loved and still love that boy! Sometimes I feel guilty when I grieve as if I am being selfish while my daughter, (Collin's mother) suffers so terribly. I feel I need to be strong on behalf of my daughter, and comfort her, rather than seek my own comfort. I grieve not only for Collin, but also for my daughter. It is all so confusing. There is one thing for sure in all this confusion....we can feel the many prayers that are being said for our family. I can see a glow in my daughter's face despite her intense sorrow. I am so grateful for my knowledge that we will see Collin again.

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Aug 06, 2012
My grandson
by: Anonymous

I just lost my 22 yr. old grandson.
I am grieving so much. He was my angel and my first grandchild, taken away to soon. We are not sure if he committed suicide or if he was killed. It is still under investigation. I don't know how to get through this.
My daughter is devastated and I am trying to console her and be there for her but I am having such a hard time. I see his face everywhere, I can't stop thinking about what happened and if he felt any pain and that he dies alone and scared. I love him so much I can hardly go on. How do you get through this and help my daughter at the same time.
I pray that he is in gods hand and out of pain.

Feb 10, 2012
by: momma anne

Hi your story touched my heart, I too lost a grandson on Jan 9 2012 he would of been 3 on Feb. 2. Us as grandparents get it double hard because we try to be strong for our children who are grieving and we still grieve for our grandchild that we lost. My grandson like yours was close to my youngest child, more like brother and sister than aunt and nephew. It is so hard as you know and it's a pain we just have to learn to live with even though it's killing us. I have asked like you all the whys, what ifs and I personally have questioned god and lost a little of my faith in him but, know I need to believe if I ever want to see my grandson again.
I pray that you find peace and will remember you in my prayers. Take all the good that your grandson was and let that take you through life.

Dec 04, 2011
Dear Grandmother
by: Kay

I am so very sorry for the loss of your beautiful grandchild.I can understand your great feelings of grief and sorrow.I lost my only son last year he was 23 although I was in great pain and will be for my whole life...I also realised my mum was also filled with sorrow.I as a grandmother myself love my grandchildren so much and can understand where your coming from.Yes we will be reunited with our loved ones that is what keeps me going.Until that day I wish you peace courage love and healing .xxx

Dec 03, 2011
Yes You Will
by: Geoffrey Campbell

I wept as I read about your Grandchild, and how deep is your sorrow, but yes, it is a wonderful thing to know, that one day, you will see your precious Collin again, oh thank God! I am praying for you Grandmother.

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