Where does time go?

by Patricia
(Las Vegas)

A Moment in Time ♥

A Moment in Time ♥

It's been awhile since I've been here. I see flashes of heartache and memories from those who came before and and those that follow on this site.
It will be 3 years soon. How can that be, he was just here yesterday.
It cuts into my heart, maybe not as deep as the first on that June 21, 2010 day but the pain and heartache never really goes away. It feels like yesterday and then a thousand years away.
They say time heals all, well the first day your like, are you for real, the second pretty much carries on and on. Then its painful the waiting, wanting and despair. Do we become numb to life, our feelings and the future just so we can wait it out until its time to go? All I know is sometimes I have so many questions... I just want to know who has the answers? and no I'm not waiting I want them now!!! Ya good luck with that one huh????
I only know one thing.....I miss you so much Billy....
Love P

Always, 1 step, 1 breath at a time ♥

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May 13, 2013
where does time go
by: silver

It's been 2 yrs this month(may)for me.I never thought I could make it through 1 yr let alone 2.I still miss my darling husband as if he had just left.I still cry but not as hard or as long.I am finally getting to the point where I can go to some of the places we went together.I wrote a poem.."How long does it take" which is on the poem site here.In it I tell people to be sure to tell them you love them before you have to ask how long does it take.I don't have the answers and i'm not sure we're supposed to have them.I do believe that one day I will get to see and hold my love again.Without that belief it would be harder.GOD send you strength and peace.I send you love and comfort from someone who is going through the same thing.

May 02, 2013
Where does timg Go?
by: Doreen U.K.

Patricia I know how you feel. I have always said there are far too many questions in life and not enough answers. I have discovered some of the answers in how I handle life's trials. We learn in life from our mistakes and how we handle them. But GRIEF. This is a different story. None of us knew what grief felt like and how we would respond.
I feel for myself that we do become numb in life now, and to different problems on going that we have to deal with in a different way than when it was two of us as husband and wife. But I don't think we do it on purpose so we get through our life quicker till we die. I think as in numbness this is God's way of giving us SHOCK ABSORBERS. So we handle our grief in stages. But sometimes I wish we could get our grief over quickly. DONE. and then we know where we stand. Pain gone. HEALING COMPLETE. This is one question I want to ask God. How were we created? that we feel the pain of losing one so deeply it blows our mind with so much pain we feel we can't go on in life anymore! We feel as if we have been knocked down by a truck and have to get up and just go on and FUNCTION. As if nothing happened to us.
When you asked who has all the answers? GOD DOES!
God created us. God set up the family. God set up marriage. God gave Life and God takes life back to him. So God must be the one who will get us through our grief and our Life. We just keep in touch with God in prayer and wait patiently for his guidance and Healing.
Because Jesus took on humanity. He knows our hurts and pain. Jesus WEPT. when Lazarus died. In the Bible David Wept when he lost his son Absalom. He cried to the depths of his soul and wished he had died instead of his son. Joseph was put in a pit and left to die by his brothers. When he revealed himself to his brothers. He WEPT so loud it says in the Bible it could be felt all over the land. Even though this sounds like a slight exaggeration. It is true that our weeping is felt through to our depths of our soul till it can go no further. It then reaches the Heart of God.
It will be 1 yr. on Sunday I lost my beloved husband. I don't want to revisit last year and all that happened. I will go to the graveside and put down some flowers. Don't know how I will feel? How I will react? But take it as it comes. Such is the mystery of Life.

May 01, 2013
WHERE DOES TIME GO
by: Anonymous

HI PATRICIA, I DIDN' LOSE A HUSBAND BUT I LOST MY DEAR SON.
I KNOW THE PAIN YOU ARE GOING THRU, BECAUSE I AM HAVING
A HARD TIME SINCE MY SON PASSED LESS THAN TWO MONTHS
AGO. I STILL CRY EVERY DAY AND I GO TO THE CEMETERY EVERY DAY AND PRAY AND JUST SPEND MY TIME WITH MY BOY. I AM IN SO MUCH HEARTACHE SINCE HE PASSED, THAT I HONESTLY THINK
I'M GOING TO LOSE MY MIND. MY SON IS THE YOUNGEST BOY OF FOUR BOYS AND THE YOUNGEST. HE'S MARRIED WITH CHILDREN
BUT MY SON WILL ALWAYS BE IN MY HEART FOREVER, PATRICIA
IF YOU WANT TO CRY ALL DAY IT'S OK ,IF YOU WANT TO GET ANGRY
BECAUSE HE PASSED IT'S OK. YOU SEE PATRICIA WE NEED TO GRIEF
SO WE COULD HEAL. IT'S HARD BUT TRY IT, IT'S OK, MAY GOD
HELP YOU FIND YOUR WAY THRU THESE GRIEVING, BECAUSE I AM
TRYING MYSELF TO HEAL,SO YOU ARE NOT ALONE.

May 01, 2013
Time
by: Judith in California

Patricia, I've been wondering how you are. You really had a rough time at first , as we all do.But it seemed more so for you. It's good to know you're still here even tho it's deeply hard and time has healed the initial shock. It will the 3 years for me in Sept. and like you, I wish time could go back to where I had him and we were an US. Nothing and no one can fill the void. There is no sense trying. I'm not looking and hate it when my friends say I should or that the right one will ccome aong. I tell them I had the right one, all the rest are what's left.
Time just won't stop and let us catch up. Sometimes I feel that I really haven't let it all out yet and am waiting for the flood gates to open up . I still reach out for him at night and tell him I miss him so much.

It is what it is and we just have to keep on keeping on Pat. Stay in touch.

God bless you and take care of you.


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