Where do you go from here? I feel like there is no reason to get up in the morning. He was the joy of my life. My husband died six months ago He was my reason for living, He made my life so full and happy. I really don't know what to do. My family is supportive but they have no idea how I am dieing inside. How I feel so empty. I keep falling deeper and deeper into this hole. Nobody understands that my life is gone. Nobody knows how much it hurts. I don't know what to do. I cry all of the time but I don't cry in front of friends and family any more and when asked I say I am fine. They don't know and I really think they want me to just move on. I don't know where to move on to.How do you pull yourself up into a new life that you really don't want. I just want my old life. I miss him so much!

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Feb 04, 2011
by: Eunice

In so many ways, I know how you feel. To lose the love of your life, your best friend, the man who was your whole world. I lost my husband the 21st of November of this past year. I take 1 step forward and 2 backwards some days. None of my family live very close to me. I moved down here and am surrounded by his family Immediately, they all wanted this and that from the house, but an Aunt of his that lives out of state gave me some advice, told me to tell them all that my husband and I had an agreement that if something happened to either of us, that nothing was to leave the house for at least 1 year, some still ask, but I give them the same answer. I went through and still go through spells where I can't even get motivated enough to get dressed, let alone leave the house. Then I had to start forcing myself to leave to take care of bills. Hospice offered counseling, which has helped, and I started going back to church which too helps. I bought a notebook that I use as a journal and write in it as if I am talking to him, what kind of day I'm having, how much I miss him and love him. This has helped quite a bit. It's not easy to come back from. Trying to figure out where to even begin on how to rebuild your life is still a mystery to me. Taking your days 1 day at a time helps. At least going to grief counseling and you happen to start crying people won't give you the "you should be over it by now" and those kind of statements. They all understand. All my best and prayer go out to you.

Feb 03, 2011
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by: Judith

It will be 5 months for me on Valentines day, What a crappy day it will be. I feel your pain and know exactly what you're feeling. Instead of getting better I seem to feel so terribly alone and the hurt is indescribable.

Please don't lie to your family or or friends it will only impede your process and they should not be allowed to take that away from you. you need to feel what to really feel. One day they will get it when it happens to them. Then you can say "See it's different huh"?

It's a roller coaster ride of a lifetime so hold on and go with it and at the end you'll find peace just as I know I will, I see signs of it every now and then.

God did not promise life without pain but he did promise to help see us through it. Trust in Him and pray for the strength you need to see it through.

Take care to get up and fix yourself up and do as you used to and as he would always like to see you do. I call it fake it till you make it. It works some days.

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