by Tricia

My youngest son died at home after falling downstairs and breaking his neck, that was on 26 March 2012. Neil was 38yrs old and married just over 2 yrs. We as a family are devastated as are his numerous friends. He has left such a huge void in so many peoples lifes and it just seems so cruel and unfair that he was taken suddenly in this horrible freak accident. Life will never be the same again.


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Jun 04, 2012
by: Lue, Jacob's mom

I am so very sorry you lost your son, Neil. My son died 11 years ago, and the first few years after he first passed away I was so angry, cried, was numb at times. I had rage, sorrow, resentment. You name it I had it. I felt like I was going to go crazy. I joined Compassionate Friends group for awhile. There were people there that had lost their children a long time ago and I had just lost Jacob. So now I am in their place, many years down the road and you are where I was. My heart goes out to you and all the parents here on this site. It is horrible and feels hopeless. For right now, try to take care of yourself. Do the basics, rest, eat, sleep. but hold on. Vent your feelings often, on this site is a good place to go because family and friends just can't understand this pain that is within you even though they have good intentions. I felt so lost for a long time. I felt alone even in a crowded room. I would burst out crying if I went to anywhere like the grocery store. I withdrew from life basically. People would have cookouts, ect. and we would get invited and I dreaded going. After all these years, I am certainly not an expert at grief. I just know that after awhile, I had to deal with my loss even though I didn't want to face it. There is certainly no wrong way or right way to grieve. No time limit, no measuring of where you are and where you should be. I will pray for you and if you want to vent, I am on here as Grief According to Lue. The one thing I don't want to do is ever say anything that will hurt you in anyway. I would love to be a support to you and others.

Apr 24, 2012
by: JOY

I lost my 21yr old son 16 months ago and I know how it hurts. Take a step at a time. You have every right to fell hurt but you also need to be strong for the remaining members of your family. I wish you well. I am deeply sorry about your loss. These are things we cannot control. Rhythms of our daily life.

Apr 20, 2012
I feel your pain
by: Carmen

I can't seem to move forward and feel nothing but pain inside.I question God and I am so angry!

I am broken and cannot be fixed.

Apr 20, 2012
god bless you
by: Cathy

Hi Tricia, my sympathies to you for the tragic loss of your son. Life shakes you up when you least expect it, I lost my 21 year old son Brandon 6 months ago and i am still searching for answers why he had to go before me. I am lost without him, my smile is gone forever. The only comfort i get is by sharing in the grief of other moms who have lost their child. I will pray for you to give you strength to carry on.

Apr 19, 2012
not alone
by: rayolife

The only comfort I have found is in talking with others who have lost their young children to tragedy. It has been 4 years of hell with out my son David, 28. His older brother Jay now 37 has been taking it out on me. I don't even want the sun to rise anymore!

Apr 19, 2012
by: Anonymous

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss, I lost my 38 year old son on March 14, 2012 and am also devastated by his death.

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