Why does it seem birthdays and holidays are so much harder for moms?
My story is one of violently losing my daughter, Kristy, age 38 when she died, and of Jordan, our only grandson, age 5 at his time of death. Their husband and father of Jordan, were snapped from us so suddenly when the husband/father/son-in-law killed then. He had completed two tours in Iraq, developed PTSD, but promised never to hurt them. Kristy tried so hard to help him, being the caregiver and loving person she was, but her 40th birthday would have been this Saturday and I cry at a drop of a hat. I have been doing better but now find myself so lost, alone, and vulnerable at this present time than ever. I want to celebrate their lives but the tears and heart-ache hit me so suddenly that I can't even get my great.
I am not sure how this to get though this. My husband, Greg, and I have been married 42 years. These "anniversaries don't seem to take him down like they do me.Maybe it is because it seems the woman was the one to plan all the birthdays, assure Christmas gifts were bought and wrapped, and that type of thing. I want to take something on Kristy's birthday and sleep the day away. I truly have given every thought to make sure I could make her day a celebration of her life, but the pain is so intense. Anyone have any ideas on what I can do?