Why is this happening to me i have lost my husband and now my mum??

by Broken Hearted
(Dorset uk)

I posted on the spouse page after losing my love and best friend on January 8th my husband died of legionnaires disease after going into hospital on new years day it was very sudden and very cruel it is now just over 4 weeks and the pain is dreadful i miss him so desperately and dont know how to go on ....and now when i really need him he is not here he was only 58 and we had been together for 30 years. i have just been getting up each day breathing in and out and thats about it. Over this whole period of time my mum also went into hospital on new years eve and she was very ill she lost the fight to live yesterday February 9th.. Today i have been going through the motions AGAIN second funeral to arrange i signed my husbands death certificate on January 10th and my mums on February 10th ....please can some one tell me how to go on i have tried so many things it was terrible losing my husband but now my mum has gone, god must really hate me !!!!! i have been unable to go to work as i just can not function cant concentrate dont want to live that was before my mums passing and now here i am again doing it all over .....why oh why is this happening ???

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Feb 11, 2012
by: Anonymous

Im sorry to hear of both losses. I also lost My Husband first, then My dad a month and 6 days later so I know how Ur feeling to let ya know God doesnt hate U He loves U! Take care and God is with U!Ah

Feb 11, 2012
broken hearted
by: pat

i can feel your hurt as i read this.i lost my son in 2010 9 months later i lost my hubsand of 25 years.then my daughter 1 month later.they were all i had in the world. i know how you feel girl.god doesnt hate us/i thought that to.within 2years i lost my family my home; iwas even homeless for awhile/ but i can assure you we will make it/every day i long to see them but i know they are with jesue now we will get to see them soon;;;;;;i will pray for you.pat collins

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