Will it ever stop hurting?

I am so tired of hurting and feel so alone. I lost the love of my life in February and I feel half a person. Thinking that I will live without him for the rest of my life feels me with despair, after 44 yrs together. I would give anything to have him back. I so hope I will get to see again when my time comes. He was the best thing that ever happened to me and I will always love him.

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Apr 30, 2013
missing My Daughter
by: Anonymous

My daughter passed away November 2012 almost 6 months and I hurt and cry everyday. The hurt is getting worse everytime I think its getting better it gets worse ! I miss her So. I just want to hear her voice but its Gone ! Its real ! She not just overseas or on Holiday ! I can't talk to her on the phn everyday like I used too ! Its Gone ! I feel her presence ! I smell her ! But I don't see or hear her! It hurt Soooo bad! I'm struggling with my weight even tho I eat correctly! I'm frustrated and listless !

Feb 20, 2013
by: Ramona

My husband of 41 years died of Cancer. He had been in so much pain for a year. He was my love, my life and I can never have that back. I cry all the time, I sometimes just want to be alone. I feel as though half of me is missing and I will never ever have that happiness I used to have with him. Even though it has only been 1 month today it feels like so much longer. I ask God to give me strength for another day. Sometimes I wish I would have gone first just not to feel this pain in my heart. the only thing that keeps me a little calm is the fact that my sweetie is not hurting anymore.

Feb 10, 2013
so lonely and sad
by: Anonymous

My husband of 21 years died on 1/1/13 of an unexpected heart attack. The pain of losing him feels unbearable. Our kids live states away and I think I should move there. Being here alone is incredibly heavy with sadness. I cant see an end to this pain.

Jul 29, 2011
having loved and lost
by: Anonymous

Grief never completely disappears it hides in the recesses of our minds torturing us with memories that painfully replay. But as time passes we can see things that brought our melt downs and survive them. Thankfully later we can think of the ones we love and have a warm glow of what was instead of the torturous thoughts of what is no more. It sounds the same but it is a different frame of mind that we evolve into. It is the new life that we don't want. It will take a conscious effort when you are ready to take the life that you have left and make the most of it, make the most of you. Grief is hard work but in the end we find strength that we never thought ourselves capable of...My best to you in this long grief ride.

Jul 29, 2011
He didnt die
by: Anonymous

My husband didnt die. He left me two months ago for a girl 30 years his junior. We had been together for 35 years. He was the love of my life and my soul mate. I thought we would be together forever. Now I'm on my own. He didnt want kids so I have no family and because my life revolved around him, few friends. The friends that I have are migrating towards them so she is stepping into my shoes and I seem to be losing everything. The weekdays are long but the weekends are longer. I'm 55 and I'm having to start a new life from scratch. I'm living with the loss of him and with his rejection which is unbearable. I wake every morning with a dark cloud and a feeling of doom. I'm having panic attacks at the thought of the future without him. The house and garden are full of memories. He has moved on and is happy with his decision. I'm left with the grief and the pain. I did nothing to deserve this. I loved him and cared for him, but he wanted his 'last chance' at something new. I cant see a way forward. I have been feeling like this for two months. I'm not eating or sleeping very well and I get no pleasure from anything.. when will these feelings stop? When will I be able to move on?

Jul 27, 2011
I feel the same...
by: Danny's Wife

If it helps you in any way, I want you to know that I feel EXACTLY the same way! My husband passed December 18th and every day is just so difficult! I'm tired of being tired! And then I feel guilty because I'm complaining about being tired and my husband doesn't get to be tired or anything else because he's gone! It's such a vicious cycle! Right now, I can't see that it'll ever stop hurting, everything is just so strange... I expected to spend the rest of my life with him laughing at his corny jokes but now I feel like I'll spend the rest of my life crying.
Keep going... keep living... Danny would want us to laugh.

Jul 26, 2011
My son is gone from us
by: Anonymous

He died by his own hand and my grief comes and goes as yours will for your beloved husband. God will sustain us all. You are in my prayers for that to happen soon.

Jul 26, 2011
It will stop hurting less
by: Judith in California

It's never going to stop hurting, your heart is broken. It's not like you broke up with someone and still get to see them. He is gone forever. At this 7th month mark it is when you begin to realize this is forever and you can't get him back. You don't get a do over. It sinks in and the hurt begins anew.

It's been almost 11 months for me and I've been crying for a week..but that is because I had a surgery and had to do it alone and I cried missing him , knowing he would not be here to take care of me for a change and make me better just to see his face.

OH how I wish he was here! You will always have a grief corner .
You will grieve (not meltdown) for any reason on any given day.
It will be better some days, sometimes a week at a time .

I hope you have some friends you can go have a social time with. It's important you don't isolate yourself.

Take care and God bless you on this roller coaster ride to acceptance and finding peace.

Jul 26, 2011
Blessings from Grief
by: Geoffrey Campbell

I have found that for me, though the grief and deep love never diminishes, that I have been blessed in many ways. I lost my Grandmother and Grandfather, and I start crying for I miss them so much, for they were the love of my life and still are, but that was forty years ago. When I think of my best friend Barney, (my dog who gave me so much love, that even now I weep, but I lost him twenty years ago. But here is the thing, I also realize that their presence in my life has made me a better person, what they awoke in me was the ability to love, and to see my need to be loved, and to be needed. I just lost my precious Little Blue, and her affectionate little kisses and asking to be held is so sorely missed that I cry very hard, but I am so glad she was in my life, and one day, I will see my loved ones again, all of them, if I am faithful and compassionate in this life. Lastly, know that there is One who feels your grief too, for it is written in Isaiah, "In ALL our afflictions, He is afflicted." Thank you so much for your message, I could identify with it, and it has helped me too. Geoffrey in Scranton Pennsylvania

Jul 26, 2011
Will it ever stop hurting?
by: jules

Probably not - but it will get easier with time, my love of 42 years died 20 months ago, this week, and I still hurt - not as often, but just as deeply - I had a meltdown a couple of weeks ago, but I got through it with a bit of help from loving people around me. You will never be the same person again, because you don't have your other half with you, but you will survive - because he would expect you to.

Come to this site as often as you need, share your grief with people who know how it feels, who care and will always offer compassionate advice and their own grief.

Read some of the older posts, join The Grief Club on this site - there are some very wise words there, which may help you cope at this time.

And remember - every day - one step, one breath
Take care

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