Worried About My Dad

My mother passed a month ago. She and my dad were married for 68 years and she was his life. At first, he seemed to be coping as well as could be expected. He told me that he has been talking to her picture on the wall and I told him that it was okay to do that if it makes him feel better. He lives alone in their home because it is more comfortable and routine for him at this time. My sisters live near in the area and check on him almost daily. But suddenly, 2 days ago, he started to treat my mom's picture as if it were my mom being there. He removed it from the wall, and has been putting it to bed, sitting it on the couch to watch TV, covering it up with a blanket, putting a sweater on it and now is trying to feed it and won't eat in front of it because he feels "guilty" that she can't eat. So I guess some part of him realizes that she isn't there, but is this a normal part of grieving? I live in another state but call him every day. Last night he asked me if I wanted to talk to my mom and when I reminded him that she is with Christ and that the picture is not real, he agreed. I got off the phone and cried - my sisters think he's snapped and might need mental help. I want to say that given his age (91) and this loss, he may just be going through a stage of the grieving process, but I am worried. I don't know if this bizarre behavior will pass and try to keep reminding Dad that she isn't a picture until he gets through it, or maybe seek help. I wanted to share in case anyone else has gone through this. Advise is greatly appreciated.

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Mar 28, 2014
worried about my dad
by: Anonymous

My advise would be to get medical help for your dad asap. He could have dementia or alzheimer's. My father-in-law has it and requires special care. If it is just grief his doctor could help with that too. Best of luck to you both.

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