You are not alone in this Pain

by steffy

I always feel alone but I come on sites like this and it reminds me that there are so many going through the same pain.

Cause of death is all different and the relationships are different but we all hurt inside.

Take a moment to breath,
take a moment to cry,
take a moment to scream,
take a moment to laugh,
take a moment to dream,

Everyday is different for all of us,
we are in this strange fussy world full of confusion we fight just to wake up because reality hurts so bad,

I find it that the only moments I truly have of happiness is when I spend it with my son, he is amazing, 13 months old full of life and I look at him and I pray that his life is happy and that he NEVER has to feel the pain I felt when I lost his daddy when I was still pregnant with him.

I HOPE THAT NO ONE EVER feels our pain but reality is so many do,
words can not fix it actions can not but do something nice for yourself,
Take a long bath listen to soft music drink a glass of wine, and sob just sob..

I find it that when Im having a horrible day and cannot control my emotions I need to just be alone, being alone is golden sometimes because it helps me gather myself and think out loud say things out of anger and when its over I feel like I can go on the rest of my day with out wanting to die.

I hope someday we all find happiness,
that we all find something positive in our lives to help us move forward, life like this is no life, but I don't know how to change it,
right now I feel positive but tomorrow I might hate everything and everyone,

Iguess all I wanted to say by this is YOU ARE NOT ALONE im here, and I read what everyone posts and I cry for you and for me, for my son, I cry because I know you want to die and I know you don't understand life because I have no clue.
Be good to yourself. because its truly helps to pamper yourself sometimes.

Good Luck everyone, Im always here if you need to talk. I have no experience by far and I am a normal person, young and confused but talking is an outlet lets talk.. lets help eachother out so that the pain eases just alittle

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May 03, 2013
You are not alone in this Pain
by: Doreen U.K.

Steffy I am happy that you have been able to post a reply that finds you in a happier place today and that you let us know this.
You have been honest in your feelings and emotions and this helps us because you echo what we all feel. Even if we can come together and support each other feeling alone in our Pain. We all have to go on ALONE in our life and try to forge out some kind of future for ourselves. It is not easy, but who says we have to rush to do this. Let each day unfold as it will and whatever the day brings let us do all we can to encourage ourselves through our trials till we can become stronger through our life's experiences. Your son will bring your comfort each day. He will do or say something that will brighten and change your world. Your son will bring the sunshine into your life.
You are right to say that you feel good today but you don't know what you will feel like tomorrow. Each day is different. We don't know what curve balls life will throw at us.
Preacher's would say "If life gives you lemons" Make lemonade. Some days we will be able to make good lemonade out of our trials. Some days we will get fed up of making lemonade.
Steffy one day you will be able to go on with your life. We all will. Life is a mystery. But we only have today so let us live one day at a time. Even if it is a day where we scream and cry and get ugly. That is O.K. Healing will take place the more we express our grief. Best wishes.

May 03, 2013
Deep distress
by: Lawrence

You are in deep distress as we all are on this site; life has completely lost its meaning without the partner we loved so deeply.
It is four months since my beloved wife suddenly died and I was bereft then as I am now, but I have to put a brave face on for my daughters and grandchildren although I am dying inside I would not want them to see my suffering.
We spent nearly seventy years together in a wonderful passionate love affair for which I am so very grateful to the good Lord for but the emptiness and loneliness I now am going through is intolerable. They say grief is the price you pay for happiness so I will put a smile on my face and be happy we had those wonderful years together and if this is the price we have to pay well so be it
I’m sorry, not a lot of comfort but as you said we are all in the same boat, the wound is open still but in time will heal, but the scar will be there forever.
Our prayers are with you.

May 03, 2013
Me too
by: Anonymous

Steffy - your words describe what so many of us feel at times. It has been almost 2 1/2 yrs since I lost my son. I do feel alone sometimes - alot of the times. The journey of grief is a lonely road - we wake up every day face the road ahead and slowly walk on it . I pray to God for peace and to just get through the day and walk this path that has been put before me. Steffy I am sorry for your loss and the pain you feel. I wish for you to find happiness in some shape or form one day as well. Thank You for sharing your feelings and emotions. Take Care - take it one day at a time. God Bless.

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