Your first, your last, your Don

by Barbara
(Northumberland, UK)

I lost my wonderful partner Don on 14 August. He had no health issues. We were together as teenagers, he 18 and me 14, a 6 month romance which ended in tears 39 years ago. Last year his mum died and i guessed he would be back in our hometown after knowing he had moved away. We met up and started a relationship, and were to be married on September 18. We had just bought a flat together, decorated and furnished it, and moved in 3 months ago. He died of a massive heart attack at 3 in the morning, only I was with him. I loved him so, so much. I can't bear to go on without him after finding him again after all those years. I can see no point in anything. Everyone says time heals - but i'm never going to recover from this. My life is so empty, and I long to hold him. I'm so scared.

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Aug 29, 2012
Time to grieve
by: Rosie

I lost my partner & best friend Dec 22 2007. It was sudden & tragic and I went through the most painful, dark & isolated period of my life. I completely shut down & did not care if I died. Now, I am so grateful that I didn't! The past 2 years, I have slowly been putting my life back together~ making friends, getting in touch with old ones, reaching out to family, finding hobbies that I love to do~ hunting sea glass and taking kayaking lessons! I started a little business this year and just feel so grateful that I made it through. I still cry & I still miss him. There will always be an empty hole in my heart & I haven't been able to meet anyone since him but I have not given up on love. Hang in there. Allow yourself time to grieve~ as long as it takes but I promise you, there will be love, laughter & light in your life again one day.

Aug 28, 2012
Very similar
by: Anonymous

I have a very similar situation. We met as teens and 28 years later we got back together. Our lives were tumultuous until God brought us back together. My wife died in March of this year. I thought I was Getting better but then I wake up and only feel loss. I have to live for my children and grands but if God took me now I would gladly go. I don't know if there is any reunification in the after life but my wife was my reason to live. I see lots of people on this site going through the same loss and grief. All I can tell you is that we must believe that they are right and things will get better. Until then you have my sympathy and condolences. I had to wrte this and it makes the tears flow again. Maybe this will help you and I. I sure hope so. God loves you and I wish you relief.

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