1 Stupid Night..

by Unhappy

Just lost the love of my life, after 9 years, About 3 weeks ago we were sitting around drinking some wine and got into a terrible argument, She shoved me back so I returned the shove stupidly.(this behavior has never happened before.) Next thing you know I was handcuffed and charged with a domestic assault. I had thought she would be there to see me in the morning as it was silly and childish what happened, but she was not there. I get a court order for no communication, so I cannot contact her. Reading her facebook wall all of a sudden 2 days later she is single and has all kinds of nasty things to say about me.

The hardest part is I thought I deserved more after 9 years, I didn't realize the problems were too big to solve. Now I sit alone and in pain and just reviewing the relationship over and over driving myself crazy. Get over it my friends and family say, To this I say.. How??

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Mar 21, 2011
I am so sorry
by: Anonymous

It is sad to hear that with one incident she was willing to just leave after 9 years! I have lost my soul mate now after 7 years. Your girlfriend must have been unhappy in other ways and did not tell you. I also had that happen to me too. I don't understand where communication is in your situation or in mine. All I know is that every day I wake up and think how did this happen to me? I thought that we were solid as it sounds like you did too. One incident should not be the end of a relationship. Where is the commitment and devotion? The same goes for me too? I am so sorry to hear about your loss. Try to do your best every day to find something good in the world. I am going to be an aunt for the 3rd time! I know that you can find something too. And...do not listen to the people who keep saying to get over it. It is going to take a long time to heal. I wish you well!

Mar 17, 2011
when push comes to shove
by: Anonymous

It sounds like she was looking for an excuse to end the relationship before the "shove". I do not know how you are to start your life again, just that this door has not just closed but slammed in your face. You are forced to look at your relationship with a magnifying glass trying to figure what went wrong. Instead figure out what you want in a relationship and live by the golden rule. Things will work out for you.

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