Feather Your Nest

Comfort grief  pillows…  for those sleepless  nights

You need a comfortable nesting spot in which to do your griefwork. Although you may be dealing fairly well with your bereavement, you may find some difficult times at night, when you crawl into bed. You watch an old movie on TV, then tackle a nice boring novel to get to sleep.

But then, the old grief demons lurk in the shadows, don't they? I'm so sorry, we don't really have a cure for that; sadly, you must work it through yourself. But we do advocate comfort. Make your nest as soft and comforting as possible. Perhaps one of the items below might might be just the thing to provide much needed comfort and help you get to sleep at night...

Comfort grief pillows

  • A memorial grief pillow- have a photo of your loved one transferred to a nice soft pillow.
  • Memory Foam Topper-- Once you have slept on this stuff once, you will never go back!

Memory Foam Mattress Toppers

Okay, so memory foam is obviously not a "comfort grief  pillow". But this stuff has made such a profound difference in my life, honestly, I wanted to share it with you. You spend about one third of your life in bed. You reach for all the creature comforts in the world for the other two thirds, so why not pay attention to your comfort while you sleep?

When you first lay down on memory foam  (if it's good quality) you feel like you're lying on a piece of plywood.

After about 15 minutes though, you start to realize that your body is seeping down into the material until it is perfectly supported at all spots. There are no stress points, where one part of your body receives more friction/pressure than another. "Memory foam" is kind of a misnomer. It doesn't really remember the contours of your body.  It molds to your shape every time you lay down, in any position.

If you're interested, make sure and get fairly dense memory foam. The ones you see at Walmart are too spongy; not dense enough. We do not offer memory foam mattress toppers online, as they are heavy and likely much cheaper bought locally, or try Amazon Prime.

If you have the money...

Invest in a complete Tempur-Pedic system, with thick memory foam mattress (not a topper) and up-and-down controls. We do not receive any compensation for this endorsement, this advice is from personal experience  :<)

Photo Memories Personalized 18" Throw Pillow

Give your home décor a personal touch with our Photo Memories Personalized Throw Pillow.

Upload any photo to be fully pressed on the front with a grey panel on the back side, creating a unique piece of décor you will display proudly. 


  • Available in 2 sizes.
  • Removable polyester cover
  • Pillow filler shell is 100% polypropylene and filling is 100% polyester
  • Measures 18" sq
  • Spot clean
  • For decorative use only
  • Minor assembly required
  • Imported

Embrace Memory Foam Body Pillow

Sleep Innovations Embrace memory foam body pillow measures an oversized 20 x 54 x 6 inches. Why pay up to $200 for the leading memory foam brand body pillow? The Sleep Innovations Embrace body pillow provides luxurious comfort without a hefty price tag.
Exclusive comfy micro-cushion core delivers gentle, contoured support, and greater airflow. Includes removable and washable plush pillow top cover and bonus soft feel pillowcase.

Wrap yourself around all the comfort and support you need for a deep, restful night's sleep with the embrace memory foam body pillow. How did you ever do without one?

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Family Comfort Pillows

Stephen's Pillows

One family who lost their teenaged son Stephen made comforting pillows out of his sweatshirts. They cut off the sleeves and sewed the bottom and arm openings shut, using the neck hole as an opening for stuffing. Each family member stuffed his own pillow half-way and then wrote a letter to Stephen.

They shared their letters with each other, then folded them into very small squares and placed them in the center of their pillow. They then filled them up, and then the neck was sewn shut. As part of the ritual, they shared stories about Stephen. Each used his own pillow for comfort however they wished.

"A pillow for thee will I bring,
Stuffed with down of angel's wing."

~Richard Crashaw





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