My daughter broke my and my granddaughter's hearts

by Kathy Gonzalez
(New York)

My Angel

My Angel

My daughter suddenly and without explanation cut me out of her life. She blocked me from contacting her through her cell phone and her home phone now requires a code to leave a message. I had just spent a week visiting and when her fiancee came home for the weekend, everything changed. We had no problems all week. We had a great time. My granddaughter, Grace and I are very close. My daughter and Grace lived with me until Grace was 4. She is now 6. I cut Grace's umbilical cord and was the first person to hold her. Grace calls me her best friend and tells me all of her little girl secrets. I am devastated and Grace is heartbroken as well. I haven't seen or spoken to her in 6 months. I need to know what effect this sudden loss of her grandmother will have on her. I don't think I will ever forgive my daughter or get past the hateful feelings I have for her and I don't really care right now. I'm just worried about Grace. She knows I would never forget about her and she knows I love her with all my heart. I just really need to know how this is going to affect her. Please help

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May 23, 2015
My daughter broke my and my grandaughter's hearts
by: Doreen UK

Kathy I am so sorry for your loss of relationship with your daughter and how she has cut you out of her life. It is usually when our children have a partner that we can become isolated and even cut out of their lives. What a painful experience this is. I have been there and still miss the relationship and bond I had with my daughter. But she has a busy life with work and her children I don't see much of as a result. She also has a husband who is demanding and puts more responsibilities on her. But it still hurts.
My son has a wife who kicked off at him for taking me and my youngest daughter for a meal whilst she was away on a job overseas. She resents him having anything to do with his family. Life is so full of many cruelties. I always made it a rule that I would never put pressure on my children or pull in any direction that left them in an uncomfortable position in the middle. Having lost my husband of 44yrs. 3 years ago to cancer leaves my world empty and lonely. Even if I see my children for half and hour it makes me happy. I don't hold out much hope for life changing. I will take whatever I can get in maintaining a relationship with my Adult children. It is a very hard place to be. I don't know the solution to what you are going through. But I share your pain and hurt as we both fight our individual battles you wont' feel so alone. I hope things do improve for all of us who are facing this hurt in our lives.

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