Step daughters loss
Ten years have come and gone since my step daughters bio mom moved away. At the time they were just babies. 4&5. She by no means was an active bio mom, didn't call on birthdays, Christmas or for any other reason.
The custody battle.. Was just that, a battle. In and out of court over and over. For 3 long years.
I met my step daughters around Christmas, they were only 23&9 months old. We had so many ups and downs when it came to living arrangement with the kids. Bio mom moved every month it seemed. And every few weeks "life is too much and I need you to take the kids" is all we heard from her.
3 years later we finally got the judge and all her lawyers to see that we actually weren't so bad! That we could actually provide a loving, caring, stable environment for these 2 precious angels!!
And that bio mom on the other hand was.... A mess.
Later that year bio mom meet a man, and had a baby ( turned out not to be his)
After false police repots, abuse allegations toward others.. Bio mom couldn't take all the drama she caused and left for another city hundreds of Km's away.
Eventually the kids got used to the idea of bio mom not being here.. Showing she didn't care. And they gave up on her being a "mom"
Life went on! Everyone was happy and content. We were a family, always had been... Always will be!!!
10 years passed so quickly, I'm so proud of my step kids, and how amazing they are, kind, caring, just perfect in my eyes. After all they are my babies!
One day not too long ago, the police came to our home. They had to talk to my babies.. They had to tell them that this lady, who gave birth to them, who wasn't around but instead was raising her new family..far far away, would never be back.
That early one morning, she didn't wake up.
All her bad habits had caught up to her.
Now my kids are left wondering... All these questions they have. From serious to silly.. And I have no idea what to say.
How do you help your babies when you don't know the answers?!! How can you explain why a mother could leave without saying goodbye?!