AREN'T YOU TIRED OF
There you are... surrounded by supportive family and friends... yet somehow, you still feel so very much alone with your sadness, grief and despair.
How can that be?
Because people who are close to you don't know what to say anymore, or how to really HELP you.
In the case of family members who are also bereaved, you have to be careful what you say, treat them gently and be strong for THEM. They are not in a position to lend unconditional support to YOU in YOUR grief. One of our visitors put it this way:
In the case of family members or friends who are not also bereaved, they may lend you a lot of comfort in the beginning, but eventually, talking about the loss becomes uncomfortable and awkward for them. They secretly wish you would quit grieving and let things get back to normal.
Telling your tale of grief to strangers who have also gone through what you have lends a very different and special kind of support. You can say whatever you want without fear of upsetting family dynamics or alienating friends. What a relief!
These folks truly do understand what you are going through... they GET IT... and connect with you on a physically distant yet emotionally intimate level.
For some strange reason, you will find you can bare your soul to them in a way that would be unthinkable to a family member, or even in a local support group meeting. I guess there is safety in anonymity, or comfort in distance.... whatever the reason, it WORKS!
The Grief Club is a very successful online grief support group for that very reason! Our original Yourspace Blog, which has now transitioned to The Grief Club Forum, has proven how effective this type of discourse can be.
So what exactly is The Grief Club? It is a brotherhood (and sisterhood) of grieving souls who have been thrown together by tragic circumstances.
Listen to these actual quotes from visitors to our website:
"This is a club I didn't ever want to belong to, but as my husband used to say, 'tomorrow comes'."
"We all belong to a group that nobody wants to be a member of, so we have to stick together and lift each other up."
"There is comfort in finding others that are truly understanding of your grief, that are experiencing the agony and immediate raw emotions of your pain. There is a familiarity that binds us together, a common understanding and connection."
"I pray for all of us who are members. Welcome to the 'I can't do this anymore' club."
It was quotes like these that got us to thinking how awesome it would be to form a real, functional Grief Club! Where members could not only post and comment normally, they could enter into private messaging if they felt a special "connection" to another club member.
We could offer other "members only advantages", like Pearls from the Forums, a special grief newsletter and discounts on grief coping resources.
When we first started Recover-From-Grief.com, we invited our guests to write (in the Yourspace Blog) in order to help ease their pain, and write, they did.…
As time went on, we began to realize how important these random writings were. We felt there had to be a better way to utilize this amazing body of wisdom. What if we pulled out the best, most profound, most useful and interesting "grief quotes", and grouped them into categories? Groupings
that make them easier to access when needed? Well, that's what we did... This collection formed the original Grief Club, and now we call it Pearls from the Forum.
I have heard from several site visitors that one of the best coping mechanisms they found was to have something they could cling to in the storm.… a thought, a quote, a psalm or a strategy. We have amassed here a huge collection, literally hundreds, from which you can choose for yourself.
As I combed through the submissions, looking for appropriate quotes
and thoughts, I was blown away by the depth and breadth of wisdom I
found there. May you find much comfort and help by reading these words submitted by your fellow sufferers in The Grief Club.
I just know that in this collection, you will find the perfect thing to latch onto. Just the right thought, catchphrase or comforting mantra to help get you through your darkest days.
In the "Pearls" pages you will find pain, fear, tragedy and much sorrow. You will be sad. You will have some "ah-hah!" moments. You will find comfort in reading thoughts you would swear came straight from your own brain! And, most importantly, you'll also find intertwined in these words a message… a clear message of hope and healing for the future.
These are just a few examples of Pearls from the Forums, our special collection of thoughts, wisdom and coping ideas from our visitors:
And these are some quotes from participants on how our Blog/Forum has touched their lives:
Well, that's our story. We have decided to go full-speed ahead with our Grief Club. We have been told that "most forums don't make it". But I truly believe something very special has happened here on Recover-From-Grief. And I just KNOW this Forum and The Grief Club will survive and prosper as long as there is a need to provide support and comfort for grieving souls.
Now for some housekeeping...
Your membership in The Grief Club includes:
As we transition from the Yourspace Blog to a Forum and offer formal memberships, we require a one-time, small membership fee.
Why have we decided to make this change? As a free-access blog, we were being inundated with multiple posts from spammers and spellcasters from Nigeria (really). Requiring a minimal signup fee will eliminate all that (time consuming and useless) trash from the forums.
We have spent a lot of time and thought constructing a really attractive, user-friendly Membership platform. This is what it looks like:
Any one of the 4 offerings above is more than worth the low
one-time-only $10 LIFETIME membership fee. But sign up today, and you
get ALL FOUR!
Not only that, rest easy; membership is guaranteed. We feel so sure that you will benefit enormously from your membership in The Grief Club that we provide a 60-day no-questions-asked guarantee. So try it out for 60 days and if you don't agree that membership is worth $10 many times over, we will cancel your membership and refund your fee, hassle free.
Sign up today and join in Recover-from-grief's premier Forum and The Grief Club... where everyone is waiting with open arms to help YOU cope with YOUR grief.
Remember, "Grief shared is grief diminished".
My sincerest sympathy to you in your loss,
And Kindest Regards,